Cynthia Nixon, the actress formerly known as “the Sex and the City character none of your friends wanted to be when you were assigning yourselves Sex and the City characters at brunch,” caused quite a stir when she told The New York Times that her homosexuality was “a choice” earlier this month. Nixon, who has been in a gay relationship since 2004, offended many members of the LGBT community with her remarks, which were taken as a suggestion that being gay is not genetic.
“I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me,” she said in the Times. “It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive.”
She later tried to clarify in an interview withThe Daily Beast, saying that it was her bisexuality (Nixon was in a relationship with a man for 15 years) that provided a choice. “I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men,” she said. “And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.”
“My recent comments in The New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay. I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can’t and shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering. However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify:
“While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.
“As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex.
“Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens.”
PopWatchers — do you agree with Nixon’s latest statement? Do you think that the internet outrage over her initial comments was justified? If so, does her statement to The Advocate clear things up?