David Tutera is my reality TV BFF. Who's yours?

My-Fair-WeddingImage Credit: Chris Ragazzo/WE tvI don’t know wedding planner David Tutera personally, but after many a nights spent watching My Fair Wedding on WE tv, I certainly feel like I do.

Our non-relationship started in 2008 when I watched my first episode of Fair Wedding. On the show, David (we’re on a first-name basis) takes a bride’s doomed wedding and turns it into her dream affair using the utmost care and thoughtfulness.

But what drew me most to David as a reality personality was not the lavish parties he throws or even his amazing eye for style. It was that in the course of a few weeks, he builds his bride’s confidence, teaches her about self-worth (“Dream big,” he often says), and shows each one of them genuine-looking compassion. And many of the women on the show truly need those lessons and gestures.

It’d be easy for Tutera to swoop in and create a giant event dripping in glamor, but he spends time with these girls, who he calls “my brides.” Often, at the end the show, they’ll give teary speeches about what he’s done for them and taught them (while I cry on the other side of the TV screen like a loser). He becomes their friend. Watching this time and time again has had a strange effect on me. I feel almost like David Tutera is my friend.

Before you ask, yes, I’m aware of how demented this sounds, but it’s true. If I ever saw him in person, I fear I would to go up to him and start chatting like I’ve known him for years — and, of course, he’d probably run away in horror.

On one level, the show is certainly an addition-feeding entity. (I’m not and never have been engaged but have purchased wedding-related publications for longer than even I am willing to admit. ) But having jumped ship from wedding TV shows before — I’m looking at you, Bridezillas; your ungrateful, horrid brides deserve smacks in the face and not dreams-come-true — I know it’s more than the thrill of the event. I’ve stuck with Fair Wedding because of David. We share a passion for nuptials, and I appreciate his female-empowering message about having dreams and making them happen. For that, David Tutera is my best friend by way of reality TV. (I don’t know if that troubles me or not… probably not).

What about you, PopWatchers? Is there someone you feel like you’ve come to know (and love!) because of reality TV? (A.k.a.: Your reality TV BFF?)

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  • reb

    Cat Deeley. She’s just too awesome for words.

    • Aimee

      I adore Cat Deeley! She deserves an Emmy because the show would not be the same without her.

    • T

      Cat Deely is the truth! Why she keeps getting overlooked for even an Emmy nom, when she deserves to win, completely escapes me.

  • whatevs

    Clinton Kelly from WNTW!

    • orianis

      Me too! I love Clinton. I’ve even looked him on YouTube so I can learn how to throw a party that I’m never actually gonna throw

  • Vilya

    I totally get you on David Tutera. He seems like a really nice guy who genuinely cares for the women he’s helping. In that same vein, my reality TV BFF is Tim Gunn. I long for him to give me a makeover! Remember his short-lived reality show? He was so kind to those women and really wanted them to feel better about themselves. I just love him. :)

    • Sissy

      David Tutera is a lesson in gentility. Once in a while, you can really see him blown away by his “bridges”. He is a lesson in how to behave. Hey, kudos to all of us. He is definitely the anti Joan Rivers. We’re fortunate for that.

  • Donna

    Tim Gunn is my bestie.

    • Michelle

      Three-way tie, Tim Gunn — Jeff Probst — Jeff Lewis. You get kind, fun, funny, fashionable. They all rock.

  • Kana

    I have highly developed fantasies about Tim Gunn and I going shopping and doing brunch.

    • kt

      Same here, but it has to be Tim Gunn and I at Red Lobster, just like him and Andre in Santino’s “What happened to Andre?” stories. lol

  • C Luv

    I dont know about Bff but my reality tv “grandmother” is Paula Dean. She comes across as so real and authentic.

  • Erin

    I don’t know if we’re BFF, but I’m definitely in love with Boston Rob from Survivor. He is, and forever in my eyes, the best reality TV star.

    But now that I think about it, I think Chris Harrison might be my reality TV BFF. He’s just plain awesome.

  • Nikki

    Sandra, I’m with you. I LOVE David Tutera! I’m amazed with his ability to take some of the most absurd wedding themes (Phantom of the Opera…really?!) and translate them into gorgeous weddings for his brides.

  • Ari

    I’m torn between Tim Gunn and Bravo Andy.

    • tracy bluth

      So am I! I guess I just have to be (pretend) BFFs with them both!

  • tuppy

    Stacy London and I would totes be BFFs in real life — she’s clearly smart but also chill and so witty! Love her.

  • ally

    RuPaul from RuPaul’s Drag Race! And you know you are having a good time if your besties with Ru!

  • Kaite

    I hate reality TV. Absolutely will not watch it. But while on bedrest I caught this show… love it! I don’t have the channel anymore which sucks, but I love David too!!! It’s not even the show I like, it’s his personality. I love how he makes the decisions but totally keeps the bride and groom’s opinions in mind

    • Albertkitten

      you can catch full episodes on wetv.com

  • JR

    I so agree with you Sandra!! also Christian Siriano.

  • amanda

    Tabatha Coffey from Tabatha’s Salon Takeover on Bravo. She’s such a tough beyotch, LOVE HER

    • Em

      Tough, but insightful, and not cruel. I love her too!

  • Lisa Simpson

    Tanya Memme and Roger Hazard from “Sell This House.” Saturday mornings aren’t the same when I miss them.

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