Not sure if it’s safe to come back in here, but I wanted to come back today and give you my final thoughts now that Read the full post.
Mar 4
2009
07:02 AM ET
Chris Harrison blogs 'The Bachelor': After the Final Rose, part 2
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I don’t know Jason or Molly personally so I can only judge based on what I’ve seen, but in general, I think the whole “the heart wants what it wants”/”I had to follow my heart” thing is just such a terrible excuse to hurt someone else and not feel sorry about it. There is a classy way to break up with someone and that’s not what we saw on ATFR. If Jason had cared at all about Melissa’s feelings, he should not have gotten together with Molly right after – regardless of how he was feeling. A better person would have put the other person’s feelings ahead of their own and at least allowed for a certain “mourning” period before jumping into another relationship.
oh and one more thing….people are defending the national TV breakup thing…something about a contract…I don’t buy it…is it so much of a contract that ABC would throw Jason in jail for breaking up in private in direct ‘disobedience’? If that’s not the case then this is Jason has been characterized as a jerk. Character is more important than money or man!
Dear Chris,
I really think he cares a great deal for Melissa and if he admitted it, I think he was going to pick Molly until Diona showed up.
She “SCARED” him into changing his mind and choosing Melissa when she kept saying “Jason, go back to the beginning and remember what you were looking for and wanted, don’t make the mistake I did and choose someone who you think maybe fun or the “wild card”, is that what you want in your life right now?” and then she said “Your allot like me Jason and that is why I think if I would have chosen you, we would still be together, but I chose wrong…I went with the wildcard”.
And IF you saw his face at that moment, HE WAS CRUSHED AND STARTED CRYING AS SOON AS SHE WALKED OUT!! I wanted it to be Melissa and thought it would be until the last 2 episodes and the way he looked/touched her WAS DIFFERENT, I knew then, Uh-oh He’s In Love with Molly!!! I wish Melissa well! I also wish Jason,Molly & Ty all the best!Your heart loves who it wants!Bye Schelly
Jean – Bonney Lake, WA — Hello neighbor! From Bellevue here. You are so right. It takes only a second to truly fall in love. My husband and I fell in love the minute we looked at each other it was love at first sight, both in our 40′s like you two. We have now 14 years together and I would not change a thing. If people have honestly never felt that connection of what love truly is, they will not understand what Jason did at all, or Molly. However, for those of us that know that true feeling of love and finding our soul mate, will understand. You just know.
Chris, looking forward to Jill. Regardless of what went down and all the rumors flying around, I’m stoked for Jillian’s season.
And can we pretty please have a challenge amongst the Bachelors vying for her, to find the Ogopogo?! Just a goofy suggestion
Jenn:)
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CHRIS – HOW DARE YOU WRITE OF THE AUDIENCE THAT HAS MADE YOU RICH THAT “We all bring our own baggage into this discussion”? DON’T BLAME YOUR ETHICAL FAILURE ON OUR “BAGGAGE”, YOU INGRATE!
WHAT YOU DID TO MELISSA WAS WRONG. PEOPLE DONT LIKE IT, AND IT’S NOT BECAUSE WE HAVE BAGGAGE, CHRIS, IT’S BECAUSE WE HAVE MORALS!! YOU DON’T.
I’VE ALWAYS KNOWN THE SHOW WAS AN ENTERTAINING SHAM. HOWEVER, I THINK THAT YOU GUYS CROSSED THE LINE BY DELIBERATELY AND PUBLICLY HUMILIATING MELISSA. YOU PRESSURED JASON TO DUMP HER ON TELEVISION AND HE DID IT.
YOU BLAME THE SHOCKING CRUELTY OF YOU, OF JASON, OF THE BACHELOR PRODUCERS ON THE “BAGGAGE” OF THE AUDIENCE THAT YOU HAVE EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATED FOR YEARS.
YOU HAVE MADE A FORTUNE OFF OF THAT “BAGGAGE,” BUT AS SOON AS YOUR FANS STOPPED SUCKING UP TO YOU, YOU INSULT THEM!!
THAT “BAGGAGE” LINE WAS THE MOST OFFENSIVE PART OF THIS UGLY DEBACLE!!!
NOW WE KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY THINK OF YOUR “FANS!
BOTTOM LINE – YOU’RE WRONG, AND YOU FEEL GUILTY.
Chris, we know that Jason and Molly are real people (and Molly has said this herself also)… but are we also forgetting that Melissa is also a real person, with real feelings? Yes, Jason and Molly have each other to rely on, but I wonder if Melissa had anyone to rely on when she was broken up with in front of a TV crew 6 weeks ago?
I don’t care what anyone says, but it is one thing to be rejected before the Final Rose Ceremony, and another to have your FIANCE break up with you on national TV.
There is a sensitivity issue here. I think if Jason (and Molly) could show a little more compassion toward Melissa at this time, instead of making themselves sound like the victims here, then perhaps it would be easier for people to accept them as a couple.
Anyway, thanks for writing this blog and sharing your views with us. It has been fun reading your blog and the various comments people make on this site.
Chris, you seem like a really decent man and nobody doubts that the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise pays you well! but continuing to be on this show is making you look cheap and tawdry. Surely you’re tiring of this on-air pimp role by now? The latest debacle tests the limits of viewer patience and you ruin your personal credibility by defending the show (especially the claims that Molly and Jason had no contact of any kind between the finale and the two absurd follow-up shows.) Get out while the getting is good, Chris, because the bloom is definitely off this rose, and even Jillian cannot save the show, now. (Thank whomever it was that came up with the convoluted Jason/Melissa/Molly trainwreck concept.) I know I won’t be watching anymore. Hope to see you elsewhere. (Maybe Rock of Love Bus is looking to upgrade by swapping Big John for you? That show isn’t all that different; at least its star’s motives are more transparent.) Regards!
Chris, you said, “I find it fascinating to hear how you feel about all this. We all bring our own baggage into this discussion and that definitely helps shape our thoughts and feelings.”
So you’re saying my disgust at how Jason and the show treated Melissa is caused by MY OWN BAGGAGE? You decide (per your own blog) that Jason HAS to dump Melissa on TV, you conveniently side-step or ignore every legitimate question posed to you on this board, and you tap-dance all over the place in an attempt to convince everyone that Jason and Molly are One Great Love Story. But if I’m not buying the company line, it’s because of MY BAGGAGE? Chris, you don’t need a cold one – you ARE a cold one.
Oh yeah, and that “told you so” comment of yours predicting that Jason and Molly will be married 5 years from now? I wouldn’t place a bet in Vegas on that.
Mr. Harrison,
I could tell you weren’t happy with what was happening. These are REAL people. BUT…I fault Jason for being immature. Two years ago he was married with a baby. Then he got divorced (for whatever reason). Within a year he was seconds from proposing to DeAnna when she stopped him. Within a year of THAT he was proposing to Melissa, and 6 weeks later breaking up with her. I think he’s a bit shallow – he thinks that whatever he is feeling in that nanosecond is going to last a lifetime, but he’s not feeling true emotions and when they change, he just changes with them. So he comes across as impulsive and fickle. I don’t fault him for breaking up with Melissa so much as for proposing to her in the first place. I think his character makes him a dangerous man, because he absolutely 100% believes everything he says, at the time he says it. But he has no staying power! I really liked both Melissa and Molly – they’re smart, sincere women. My heart goes out to Melissa.
I think it is a shame for you all to put Melissa through the public humiliation that she went through because of a contract…Jason is the scum of the earth and I will be 5 years from now he will not be married to Molly…she is to young to be a step mother and this is not Jason’s first rodeo no matter what you say.
i really think that yall should have picked melissa to be the next bachloerrt. she was the one who was hurt and desevers true love.
obviously the bachelor is a phenominal hit but my question is will we ever see any diversity in this show, will there ever be an asian, or hispanic or african bachelor, or is there a market out there that one to see that, as a minority I would definitly would like to see a bachelor of color eventually
Nice try with the spin CH…Why am I not surprised? You’re MF and ABC’s front boy.
What the heck? He must of really loved Molly to do what he did to Melissa? Are you fricking kidding me? He could have really loved Molly AND privately called it quits with Melissa. No logic here CH. None! And no amount of dragging out the season’s bachelorettes to aid you in spinning this fiasco will fix it.
Pathetic and disgusting. I am ashamed of you, Jason and the whole franchise.
He is a putz!!! His head is so far up his ass that he really thinks people are mad at him for falling in love. I am happy that anyone can fall in love.
Most of us are pissed that you would ask her to marry you when you were torn. I give major props to the people who said..I love you but, I cannot propose until we have some time away from here.
Second..You just broke someones heart that you say is the sweetest person ever! But you then start kissing Molly ten mins later. Way to hold Melissa’s feelings to heart. That was you one most heartless moves you could have ever done. You really could of saved that for after the show. Give her a little respect for her feelings!
Melissa is my favorite. Ive loved her from seeing her on the cowboys cheerleader bootcamp. She deserves so much and you are the lucky one. There is you knight in shinning armor out there.